Wednesday, 30 November 2011

How to Save your Marriage

After few years of marriage some conflicts between the couples may arise and married life may become stressful. How will you come to know that your marriage is in crisis? There are some reasons responsible for disturbed married life such as alcohol abuse, difficulty with children, financial problems, a situation when both the partners are unfaithful, major life changes and problems with fertility.

The marital relationships may be affected by the broken trust, boredom, infidelity, poor communication, lack of appreciation, addictive behavior, emotional abuse, absence of sex and no affection. When the marriage is in trouble, you should try to find out the solutions of how to save a marriage.

When you realize that something is wrong with your married life, don’t just think how to save a marriage, but immediately look for the solution. You try to find out the problems and adopt some qualities to save your marriage and to stop the divorce. There are always some hopes and ways to resolve the problems your marriage. The conflicts in married life may be due to ego or some misunderstandings.

Hence, to maintain healthy relationships, you should give up ego and should take an initiative to resolve the problems in your married life. Self-assessment is a very important step to save your marriage. You should be able to think about your mistakes and develop an improvement in your behavior. Avoid doing those things that can hurt your partner.

There are some beneficial options for the problem of how to save a marriage. If you want to be a good partner, you should have a capacity to listen to your partner and understand him/her. You should be able to keep calm and talk through the problem. When your partner is talking with you, you should ask the related questions and clarify all doubts.

Good communication is a very important factor for developing the healthy relationships. You should share all problems and feelings with your partner. The most important thing is that you should fully trust your partner and never be jealous about his/her personal and professional progress.

Your approach towards your relationships and married life should be positive. Whenever there are some problems or bitterness, remember the happy moments that you had spent together and try to reignite these moments. When there are some problems, don’t get disturbed or panic, just stay calm. Whenever you lose your temper during the arguments, you generally tend to say and do the things that you actually didn’t mean.

One of the best ways to save a marriage is to create long-term plans with your partner. Make some plans to spend the vacations at good picnic spot. Some future plans that are made together may help to increase the intimacy. It will assure that your partner is always there for you.

Your overall personality and hygiene also have great impact on your married life. Hence, try to be always presentable that your partner likes and adopt hygienic habits. How to save a Marriage should not be a problematic issue at all.

Try some of above solutions and make your married life hassle-free and pleasant one.

Tuesday, 15 November 2011

Advice for when you get back with your ex (This one is for the Boys)

Staying a Couple

Do you remember when you and your spouse were dating? It seemed as if you both couldn’t get enough of each other. You most likely spent time holding hands, smiling at each other, whispering in one another’s ears and all kinds of small little actions that kept your love exciting and new. Once a couple becomes married, they tend to stop doing those loving things after some time. Life becomes busy- you’re walking too fast to get somewhere to hold hands, she knows you love her so you don’t think you have to tell her, she might be offended if you order for her at a restaurant and so on. It is very easy to fall out of the habits of ‘couples’. It can be just as easy to fall back in the habit if you give it a try.

When you go anywhere together, start putting your arm in his or take her arm and enter that way- enter as a couple. Even before that, make sure you never walk without holding his or her hand. Take a look at elderly couples that have obviously been married a long time. They still hold hands.

After living together for some time, it is most likely that you have accumulated some of the same types of clothing. Intentionally match your outfits now and then! If you don’t want to go that far, buy matching coats or caps and wear those when you are out together. It doesn’t have to be every time you leave the house, but every once in a while should be fun!

When you take your wife out, it’s still okay to do the traditional things men used to do for women. Although feminism is very real and should be taken seriously, there is nothing wrong with holding the door open for your wife or pulling her chair out for her to sit at the table. These are not signs of a weak woman who cannot do it herself. You are showing her respect each time that you make a gesture like that.

Flirt subtly with each other whenever you feel like it! You don’t have to be out to dinner or at a party to flirt with each other. Do it at home while you’re cleaning the kitchen or while he or she’s reading a book. Walk by and whisper their pet name in their ear or plant a kiss on his or her neck. Make eye contact and wink or offer a seductive smile. Take the initiative and do what comes naturally.

For those who are uncomfortable with public displays of affection or even private displays of affection, give it a try. If you find that you are unable to enjoy little attempts at being affectionate, you might want to seek counseling to discover why it makes you feel that way. If you and your spouse are happy without that type of affection, more power to you but it is unlikely that both of you are content. It doesn’t hurt to try and the worst that can happen is that you might actually like it!

Now discover how you can get back with your ex and stay. To get back with your boyfriend just click here now or click here to get your girlfriend back.

I wish you every happiness, just believe that You can and will make it happen

Monday, 31 October 2011

Time for a Relationship Evaluation

Where did it all go wrong

Take on board the following advice

Everyone dreaded report card day in school and if you are dreading making your own relationship report card, then you need to buckle down and study! When you rank all of the aspects of your relationship between you and your spouse, you need to score in the high nineties to achieve an A+. Consider creating a ‘relationship report card’ with your spouse and watch the awakening you will both experience. When you try to complete your relationship report card, it should not turn into a ‘blame game’. It should open the lines of communication and offer some invaluable insight into your relationship as to where you need changes and improvements.

When you consider how you want to grade your partner and yourself, it is a good idea to have some pre-set guidelines as to what each grade means. For example, an ‘A’ might mean that your partner isn’t perfect, but obviously excelling. It could also mean that your partner is loving, attentive, enthusiastic and satisfying. A ‘B’ could stand for a partner who is always trying, better than most and consistently works on improvement. A ‘C’ might mean average or acceptable. ‘C’s’ always indicate plenty of room for improvement. ‘D’s’ and ‘F’s’ should be reserved for unhappy situations or even hopeless ones. ‘D’s’ indicate never hopeless while ‘F’s’ require more than just a relationship evaluation. If you find that you and your spouse have areas with a ‘D’ or an ‘F’, you need to focus on why you are giving or receiving those grades and commit to some kind of action in order to change and improve that grade. It might involve a commitment on both spouses, but if both are willing to work at it the grade is already moving higher.

When you begin working on your relationship report card, it should be graded the same way your school papers were graded with a number grade (ex. 80%, 50%, 95% and so on). Grade both your partner and yourself in areas like affection, ability to resolve conflict, attitude, commitment, communication skills, consideration level, thinking as a ‘couple’, creativity, sensitivity, flexibility, generosity, friendship and gift giving skills. Once you’ve completed that list, continue to evaluate your honesty levels, listening skills, household management skills, patience, love making, romance abilities and practice, playfulness, self-esteem, self-awareness, sense of humor, empathy, tolerance and spontaneity. If you feel that there are any other areas relevant to your particular relationship, feel free to add and evaluate at your discretion.

When you and your spouse are grading each other, be sure to both participate in grading. You can work out your own particulars, but make sure you both have a say in both of your grades. Compare and talk about your grades and why your partner believes you deserve a particular grade (this includes the good grades, too!). You’ll be surprised at how your partner sees your relationship and you’ll have invaluable insight into how he or she sees your role in the relationship. Just because you may not have earned an A+ in one area doesn’t mean that you can’t celebrate. Pat yourself (and your partner) on the back for anything over a ‘B’ and talk about ways you can improve on any ‘C’s’ and ‘D’s’.

Now discover how you can get back with your ex and stay. To get back with your boyfriend just click here now or click here to get your girlfriend back.

I wish you every happiness, just believe that You can and will make it happen

Saturday, 15 October 2011

Possible reasons for your break up

I have just come across this fascinating article which I urge you to read and when you get back with your ex take on board the clear message contained in the article.

You and your partner seem to be searching for something that is missing in your relationship. While you know that there aren’t huge issues that should be dealt with in therapy or counseling, you simply can’t put your finger on why things seem so dull and unexciting. Sometimes you even question whether or not you are both ‘in love’ anymore. You feel almost desperate and improving your situation seems hopeless. It’s not hopeless! You need a little help in how to begin appreciating each other again through small gestures and thoughtful intentions called romance.

To start, you should think about and know exactly when all of your special anniversaries are with your partner. You should, of course, know your wedding day, but what about the first day you met each other? You should know and celebrate the first time you kissed, the first time you made love, your first major fight, your first date, your first home together, the first time one of you said, “I love you”, and even the day you believed you conceived your first child (and each consecutive child). Blow your partner away when you begin to celebrate these special occasions in the life you share together.

If you think you’ve surprised your partner by your sudden interest in celebrating your special moments together, you’ll no doubt have the urge to surprise your partner over and over again in different ways. There are many different types of surprises you can plan in order to impress your partner. There are surprise you can pull off only once in a lifetime, surprises that are so unexpected that they can only be called a total surprise, shocking surprises, surprises at work, funny surprises, big surprises and little surprises. There are expensive as well as inexpensive surprises, out-of-character surprises, private surprises, public surprises, group surprises and meaningful surprises.

In order to pull of great surprises, you really need to know your partner and how he or she will react to certain situations. If he or she tends to be quite shy, private and shies away from being the center of attention, you might not want to plan a group surprise like a birthday party or propose to her all over again in the middle of a restaurant. Quiet or private dinners or walks on the beach are better places for these types of surprises. If you want to surprise your partner at work, make sure that it is acceptable for whatever you plan to happen at his or her particular workplace. You don’t want the surprise to be his or her being reprimanded for an unacceptable event.

One of the most popular and well-received types of surprises is a sexy surprise. Sexy surprises often happen in the bedroom, but they can happen elsewhere as well. For example, if he takes you out to dinner you can wear very sexy lingerie underneath your clothes. Halfway through dinner, excuse yourself to go tot he ladies’ room and unbutton your blouse enough for him just be able to see that you are wearing something he’ll obviously want to see more of. Guys can buy a special pair of undergarments and pass her a note halfway through dinner asking her to guess what’s different about him- in his pants! Use your creativity and make sure that both of you are comfortable no matter what surprise you have in store.

Now discover how you can get back with your ex and stay. To get back with your boyfriend just click here now or click here to get your girlfriend back.

I wish you every happiness, just believe that You can and will make it happen

Saturday, 1 October 2011

How The Powers of a Positive Attitude will Get you Back with Your Ex

Last month I published an article on positive thinking and many readers have ask for another one so I hope you find this as helpful as the last one.

I am going to ask you to something very weird right now. First of all, I want you to listen to your thoughts. Now tell me, what thoughts fill your head? Would you label them as positive, or negative?

Now let's say you are walking down the street with these thoughts. Do you think anyone who would meet you would be able to tell you what’s on your mind?

The answer to number one is up to you. But, the answer number two can be pretty generic. Although people will not be able to tell you exactly what you think, they will more or less have an idea of how you are feeling.

Here's another question. When you enter a party filled with friends, do they all fall silent as if something terrible had happened? Or does everybody there perk up as if waiting for something exciting to happen?

You know what? The answer to all these depends on your frame of mind.

Thoughts are very powerful. They affect your general attitude. The attitude you carry reflects on your appearance, too – unless, of course, you are a great actor.

And it doesn't end there. Your attitude can also affect people around you.

The type of attitude you carry depends on you. It can be either positive or negative.

Positive thoughts have a filling effect. They are admittedly invigorating. Plus, the people around the person carrying positive thoughts are usually energized by this type of attitude.

Negative thoughts on the other hand have a sapping effect on other people. Aside from making you look gloomy and sad, negative thoughts can turn a festive gathering into a funeral wake.

A positive attitude attracts people, while a negative attitude repels them. People tend to shy away from those who carry a negative attitude.

We can also define attitude as the way of looking at the world. If you choose to focus on the negative things in the world, more or less you have a negative attitude brewing up. However, if you choose to focus on the positive things, you are more likely carry a positive attitude.

You have much to gain from a very positive attitude. For one, studies have shown that a positive attitude promotes better health. Those with this kind of attitude also have more friends. projecting a positive attitude also helps one to handle stress and problems better than those who have a negative attitude.

A positive attitude begins with a healthy self-image. If you will love the way you are and are satisfied, confident, and self-assured, you also make others are around feel the same way.

A negative attitude, on the other hand, has, of course, an opposite effect. So, carrying a negative attitude has a twofold drawback. You feel bad about yourself, and you make others feel the same way.

If you want to have a positive attitude, you have to feature healthy thoughts. This is probably very hard to do nowadays since, all around us, the media feeds us nothing but negative thoughts. A study shows that for every 14 things a parent says to his or her child, only one is positive. This is truly a saddening thought.

If you want a healthier outlook in life, you need to think happy thoughts, and you have to hear positive things as well. So, what can you do? Well, for starters, you could see a funny movie, you could play with children, spend some time telling jokes with friends. All these activities fill you with positive stimuli, which in turn promotes positive attitude.

Although it is impossible to keep ourselves from the negative things around us, you can still carry a positive attitude by focusing on the good things, the positive things in life.

And this positive attitude you now carry can be of benefit to other people. Sometimes when other people feel down, the thing people mostly do is try to give them advice. But sometimes, all they need is somebody to sit by them, and listen to them. If you have a positive attitude you may be able to cheer them up without even having to say anything.

If positive attitude is really great, why do people choose to adopt a negative attitude instead? One who carries a negative attitude may be actually sending a signal for attention. Before you get me wrong, feeling sad, angry, or gloomy is not wrong itself. But dwelling on these thoughts for far too long is not healthy either. There is a time to mourn.

As always, if you are beset by troubles, even in your darkest hour, focus on the good things in life, you will always have hope. Problems become something you can overcome.

You do not have much to lose by adopting a healthy, positive attitude. Studies show that such an attitude actually retards aging, makes you healthier, helps you develop a better stress coping mechanism, and has a very positive effect on all the people you meet every day. So, what's not to like about a positive attitude? Adopt one today.

Now discover how you can get back with your ex and stay. To get back with your boyfriend just click here now or click here to get your girlfriend back.

I wish you every happiness, just believe that You can and will make it happen

Friday, 16 September 2011

Exercise the Self for Healthy Relationships

Today’s article is an exercise in thinking out of the box and it shows how exercise can benefit you while assisting you through building up your self confidence and well being during your quest to get back with your ex.

The average trained weight lifter typically spends 5 to 25 minutes doing warm up exercise before conducting their training routine. Warm ups are important, not only in weight lifting, but in each exercise you participate in.

Weight lifting, apart from the massive increase in strength and ability, it also help to shape the weight training individuals’ body making it look toned and well built which improve their social life and self confidence. Is it any wonder that people tend to say that weight training is ‘positive self-development training for sport and life’. Use your dreams for personal development of the healthy self. Learn to train for the most advantageous performance.

The safety aspect in all forms of training must be meticulously observed. It is particularly so for cycling training as injury to tissue or muscles may cause unpleasant accidents during cycling. The massive strain due to inappropriate training during routine exercises may cause long-term injury to the hamstrings, which is difficult. It may take a longer time to heal.

The younger cyclists tend to experience muscle tenderness earlier than the older generation because aging causes permeability of muscle cells and the membranes to decrease. One must take precautions, by focusing on age, proficiency, stamina, and his or her ability before seriously embarking on any form of exercise training.

Usually, cyclists have developed a higher quantity of stamina level, endurance and balance. It is one’s choice whether to train in cycling to a competitive or personal level. One must realize however, that pain is part of the training in order for one to gain strength of mind and body.

You want to keep your dreams in focus when you thrive for the healthy self and development. Work on understanding your dreams or goals to work through cultivating the healthy self and relationships.

Physical exercise will expand your self-development by providing you ways to grow while building a new, healthier life. One can practice yoga to discover his or her dreams.

It is important to practice yoga each day to develop a richer understanding of the self. Start with fifteen to twenty minutes of practice then progress once you feel at ease. Remember, you should always have time to meditate. Thus, try this method of self-development practices to see your inner self unfold in time. You want to listen to your inner voice as well.

Your inner voice can act as a coach to guide you to the healthy self. Once you build the healthy self, your confidence and self-esteem will flourish. Once this action occurs, others will feel delighted to be in your life. You can build healthier relationships that will last a lifetime.

Take time to learn different exercises today for social and personal development. In order to keep the body healthy we must take care of it on a regular schedule. Building strength of character and mind will come in time through exercise. It will make you feel good about discovering the inner self. Once you find your identity, you will feel empowered to take life by the horn and manipulate through the chaos with a positive outlook. Thus, exercise will build stamina, willpower, and strength of mind, character, self-esteem, confidence, security and more, which ultimately encourages one to change his or her life in a constructive manner.

Through meditation and exercise you can ultimately work toward the healthy self-while cultivate healthy relationships that make you even stronger. Get started today, since time is running short. You want to discover who you really are now.

Something different to our usual articles but please give it some thought.

Thank you.

Wednesday, 31 August 2011

Thinking Positively Will Get Your Ex Back

After a break up we often lose confidence in ourselves and our decisions, but being positive is a great foundation along the road to getting back with your ex.

Positive thinking will help you accomplish things that you never thought likely. Thinking big is the first step in realizing your dreams and meeting with success. Ideas and dreams are a good start, but will quickly fizzle without action. Below are some steps you can take to add positive thinking into your life. You will be amazed at how quickly things start happening when you do so.

* Take passionate action towards living your life by design. Talk is cheap. Action = deposits in the bank of a passionately authentic future. Without it, passion is negated.

* Commit to yourself as well as those you love to create forcefully a life you can love. Instead of reacting, commit to creating from your heart and soul, out of love rather than fear.

* Identify and embrace the idea that every moment is ideal despite of its ending. Every time you hit on something that may appear too excessive, why not give it a attempt and see if it will work.

* Dwell completely in a place of thankfulness. Learn to use what you have in your hands and make employ it in the most constructive way.

* Keep humor at the forefront of thought, laughing at and with yourself when possible. You may find yourself quite entertaining when you loosen up!

* Believe that you are the engineer of your fate. No one can take your passionate future from you except for you! Create your life genuinely. As long as there's still breath in your body, there is no end to how much you can achieve in a lifetime.

Without having some positive thinking in your life-you'll just end up as a dim bulb in a dark corner. Make your path and allow your inner light to shine brightly for the entire world to see.

Now discover how you can get back with your ex and stay. To get back with your boyfriend just click here now or click here to get your girlfriend back.

I wish you every happiness, just believe that You can and will make it happen